We all know the old adage: partners can’t handle success. As a partner in multiple businesses, this scares me, as I want to ensure the best not only for myself but also for my business partners. But the idea of partnership is far more than that, because in a sense we all have partners, even if we’re not actively in business with them. We have spouses, girlfriends, boyfriends, or close team members. Taking an active and deliberate approach to how we handle partnership is key if we want to find both harmony and success in our lives.
Fact of life: jerks are everywhere and dealing with jerks is a part of daily life. As a society, one thing is certain. We’ve become less skilled at living with those that we don’t like and don’t agree with – typically, people we perceive to be jerks fall into those categories. Unfortunately, dealing with people that you don’t necessarily like is part of business and life. In fact, I argue that those who are strong and more adept at dealing with people they classify as jerks are those that will find the most success and meaning in their live. To that end, as leaders, we don’t shut down people when we don’t agree with them, we approach each day on a mission to be the leader that we admire.
Pat Murphy is a baseball coaching legend. He won 1,000 games and was national coach of the year as a Head Coach guiding major programs such as Notre Dame and Arizona State to success. He’s also managed at the minor and major league level with the San Diego Padres. Currently, he’s a coach with the first-place Milwaukee Brewers, working closely with Brewers’ Manager (and his former player) Craig Counsell.
Coach Murphy played an important role in my life – and the lives of countless others – for which I’m always grateful. Our discussion reflects on his career and the leadership lessons he’s learned, talks career transitions and taking the high road, and even touches on parenting in this incredible look at a truly unique person and leader.
Ever made a mistake? Of course. Here’s the deal. As you become a leader and gain an increasing amount of responsibility, you’re going to find yourself making more mistakes. Seriously. The number of mistakes and the seniority of someone in an organization is directly correlated. Why? Because more leadership means more responsibility, and more responsibility means more decisions. More decisions mean more chances to take a wrong turn.
I get to meet a lot of people, and in talking to people the conversation seemingly always turns to the topic of leadership. I’m always struck by a few things. One, there are so many people who are great leaders and don’t have any idea that they’re doing it. That’s a great thing, because once they’re deliberate about leading, they’re unstoppable. The second is that quite a few people shy away from the idea of being a leader because they think they’re not skilled or intelligent enough in a certain area. Let’s get to the point right away. Intelligence has nothing to do with how effectively you can lead. It doesn’t, so please do not sell yourself short. Regardless of where you are on the org chart or how smart you are, you can and need to lead, and you can start doing it right now.